What would you do if a friend told you she wanted to die?
What would you say? What would you do?
Would you tell her how much you would miss her? Would you tell her how much others would miss her? Would you check on her? Would you sit in her office, and push her to call for help and make sure she did? Would you send that one text that she holds at night, while she is agonizing over the decision, the one text that keeps her alive to the next morning?
Would you give her a suicide helpline and send her on her way, never to mention it again? Would you tell her how she just needed to make a decision, no matter what that decision is? Would you encourage her to go through with it because of the pain she is going through? Would you brush her off because she hasn’t done it so far and you doubt she will in the future? Would you send that one text that pushes her closer and closer to a decision to go through with it?
I promise… telling someone that you want to die isn’t easy. It’s not just saying random words out loud. Admitting that to someone else takes a lot of courage. Don’t brush that courage off.
A while ago, the mental health folks at work sent out an email. They said if someone is feeling suicidal not to share your own pain with them. You know what?! Share your pain. Don’t let me feel like an outsider in this too. Tell me about your worse day. If you’ve struggled with depression, tell me. Depression is feeling ostracized. Depression is feeling alone. Depression is feeling like there will never be a light at the end of the tunnel. If you have seen the light at the end of a never ending tunnel, share it.